It’s evident that I have the capabilities to say what I want in life. I believe what holds me back is when I attempt a step and don’t receive a response I was looking for. It makes me doubt what I am working towards and if it’s truly where I need to be. I feel that I need to let go of expected outcomes and just know that not ever inquiry will be a “yes”. In fact, perhaps what I should focus on is changing a “no” to a “yes” or even what can I do to elicit a response from someone?

Yes, well I think that coming across as cocky in “the wrong way” all depends on the receiver and his/her worldview, and of course what it is that you say you want to achieve in life. But if you want to life a rich/successful life you cannot be afraid of not being liked, as the saying “Do you want to be rich, or liked by all?”. At least that is my opinion.

And I’m sure that if you are cocky (without offending the other person), you will get more recognizion and more support from your surroundings than if you came across as uncertain of what you are striving for and want to achieve in your life. Because if you are uncertain, what do you expect the people around you to be?

Hi Sarah, thanks for sharing! When creating a personal peak state, we should reflect about what kind of recognition we are looking for and by whom except ourselves. Thanks for giving me an idéa to my next blog post!

Interesting views! I appreciate your bold, and to some people maybe provocative statements on the necessity to appear cocky… being ambitious and bold about what you want to accomplish are definitely keys to taking action. Whether it is perceived as cocky or not I’ll leave up to both the personal communication style as well as the cultural context.

A supplementary view of the from “wants” to “musts” aspect could be that your environment, in terms of people close to you and other communities knowing what you’re striving for, naturally will support you and alert you of opportunities you wouldn’t become aware of otherwise, just because you’ve been cocky/bold/explicit. I like the term of “creating a personal peak state”, a concept very beneficial to most of us.

I’ll be looking forward to further comments!

I believe that it all comes down to sheer determination to create a better life for yourself and to make difference in the world. By watching others living the “high life” and by stumbling into other people that have made it, you will (if you are naive enough) soon see that they do not have anything that you don’t. It is all about hard work, passion and determination.
To be able to become very successful you will have to create really high standards, because if you don’t you won’t be as hungry for success and you will settle for “less”. That is dangerous thinking.

You also have to put yourself out there and tell everyone you see that what you are up to and where it will lead you, and you should not be afraid to appear cocky.. In fact, the more cocky the better. This will turn your “wants” into “musts” which means that you MUST succeed, you MUST get that fancy car, or whatever it is that you want. You will put yourself in a position where you will be embarrassed if you do not make it.

You create this peak state for yourself and success will be inevitable, would you not agree?